Please help. Going to try and make a long story short. Me and my husband have been together 6 years. He has cheated on me several times with diff women even cheated on me with my best friend who I considered to be my sister in my own home n my own bed all over my home over 30 times when I would work graveyards to help with the bills. He even let my 10 year old daughter catch him and told her not to tell me. Hes verbally abusive calls me every name in the book and yells and screams at me and my kids. We cant even get one sentence out and hes cutting us off yelling and cursing us. My mom was murdered 1 year ago and he made fun of her laughed at me for crying and told me I had 5 days to bury her and grieve and get the hell over it and be back in his bed giving him sex and cleaning his house. She was all the family I have besides my kids. I'm a only child with no dad. He wouldn't even attend her funeral to support me and my kids who were very upset as well because their grandma had died because he said playing the playstation was more important. His family is huge and they all talk crap about me and my mom before and after she died and he forces me to be nice to them and act like they are the best family in the world. Finally I got fed up and told him Its over made him move out and hired a divorce attorney. Me and my kids were happier than we had ever been when he was gone. After about 3 months I began to move on and smile and laugh and date a little here and there and when he found out he went crazy jealous insane stalker status on me. Then a couple months later he text me and poured his heart out about how he had changed and would never hurt me or cheat or hurt my kids again blah blah blah…And so yes me (the stupid one took him back) Now 3 months later hes back to the same old jerk…If I text my kids he says I'm cheating…If I talk to my kids he says we are hiding something from him. If I go online he says I'm a whore and am with multiple men. I've never ever ever cheated on him. I've never even flirted with another man while with him then and now. If I talk to people I grew up with from my childhood in another state 2000 miles away he says I'm cheating. He sneaks up on me and peeks around the corners from the other rooms to spy on me. He tells my kids I'm a whore several times a week. He is the one who works with 2 of the women hes had sex with several times while we were broken up. He sees them 5 days a week and yet I say nothing. He wont even let me work unless its at a old peoples home or somewhere Its women only and will not let me attend school to better myself for my future. I'm 37 years old. I'm not getting any younger. Now my grandmother only has days to live and he says I cant even go to her funeral because Its in my hometown and there is men there so I cant go. Yet he keeps his phone on lockdown and on silent 24/7 and I say nothing. Now hes demanding I delete everyone I know off my facebook because I'm a whore and only allowed to have him and family on my friendslist.And he also has his own bank acct that his paycheck goes directly into that I'm not allowed to be on. He just gives me cash for the bills and wont give me his check stubs or bank statements even though I quit my job of 8 years making 17 bucks an hour just because he wanted me to 3 years ago. And much more to much to write… I'm fed the hell up…Hes making me hate him. Am I wrong for this??? Should I allow him to control my every move because we have kids and delete my whole life for him??? Or should I kick his *** to the curb and just be a mom until I meet someone who respects me and my kids??? Also can anyone tell me why he treats me this way? Can someone tell me why hes jealous over my own kids if I spend time with them? Please comment back what you like and tell me what I should do and why he does these things. Thank You so much.
I know it is hard to leave. BUT why are you still with this guy. Step back take a deep breath and read what you wrote. You know the answer!! If another person wrote this and you were to read it and give this person advice what would it be.
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Darlin'dump his sorry @ss. He has proven he is worthless. He has proven he didn't change. That he has no intention of changing.
Kick him out and go through with the divorce and move on
Wow He is a loser with no respect for you or anyone for that matter.What a selfish ahole.Well I can tell you why he wants to control your every move Its cause he knows he's not going to have any other woman to put up with his crap & if you leave him he knows That he is going to have to do his own cleaning & all the cooking & whatnot around that house. He tells your kids all kinds of crap to make them turn on you.So that if you try to leave him angin the kids will cry & do all they can to have you stay with him.He's doing everything to get you to stay & not go anywhere.Cause he knows he's a loser that no woman will want to stick around after sex. That's why he don't want you to go to your home town either cause he's afraid that if you go you won't go back to him.Also there's a saying that go's like this.A cheater will always think they are cheating on them cause they them-self cheat & can't live with the fact that no1 loves them for what they do to others. But anyway you really need to get away from him far far far away & change your name if you can too.Trust me you can do much much better then him & he knows it that's why he don't want to let you have any control over your life.
i m feeling sad for u..u loved him so truly n still he is not into u..do u believe in positive thinking? i m giving u a sentence u have to speak silently or audibly whenever u get time…it works wonderfully if u have faith in u and god..believe me it can change ur life for better.." infinite spirit, open the way for the divine design of my life to manifest; let the genius within me now be released ; let me see clearly the perfect plan."
I think the future is that women are gonna be slaves and loose their dignity"
Omgggg why are u still even with this animal" yeah animal !!
I think u could do better!!!
And from my point of view u dnt love him u just care for him because wheter u like it or not he's still the father of ur kids and u once where together" (but that's all)
I dnt see anything about what u love about him and why u can't see urself without him)
Instead he has cheated over and over ( once a cheater always a cheater)
He treats u like crap ( ur loosing ur respect)
He stalks u and keeps u in check Because that's what He used to do when he was cheating on u ( and he thinks u can do better and is gna realize that he's gna look like a dumbass just like u) if he doesn't find out..
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