he gets on the internet and talks to girls online flirting with them and giving them his number not only that but once i found a conversation with another girl asking her to be his side dish. we always got into fights about it but he always tells me he only does it when he is bored and i trusted him and believed him because he would never go out anywhere he'd always be with me weekends we would always be together and if we weren't we were on the phone. So i didn't think he would ever cheat on me because he said he never had a history but one night he decides to go out for a drive with my best friends ex boyfriend and they got into some trouble and got stuck in some town and my bf brought two girls back to the hotel and both of the guys hooked up with the two girls and me and my bf were together and he was texting me till 3 in the morning that night while these girls were there .. but when he told me the whole story he told me that he only kissed her they didn't have sex but he told the other guy that he did anyway i didn't know any of this was going on until my best friend called me and told me he told all along he was at his friends house playing playstation 3. But Sense then we broke up but he wants me to forgive him and work things out which we are still talking and i am still spending time with him but i don't think i am able to forgive him i keep having dreams about him cheating on me and i keep seeing texts in his phone from girls or girls keep calling him and he would me like ill call u back. i really need some thoughts on this i know it may be a situation where i should already know to drop his *** but i dint know its hard this is my first time ever being cheated on and im not sure how to handle it
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Clearly, I don't know you but you seem like a nice girl. I've been in this exact situation, and actually, my fiance (who had never cheated on anyone and said he would never because he had been cheated on and knew what it felt like) actually made a cheatee out of me for the first time too. But your BF's story sounds fishy. He only kissed the girl but lied to his friend and said he had sex. Doubtful. Plus you've found him in 1/2 attempts to hook up with other girls via the internet. Another big clue that something is up with this guy.
No one can fault you for who you love, but you have to feel good about yourself, and if he isn't making you feel good and making you feel appreciated and loved and special than he's not worth it! If the only time you feel secure is because he's around you all the time, that's not good. You should be able to trust that even when he's NOT with you 24/7 that you have nothing to worry about. People turn down others ALL THE TIME because they are in relationships and are completely devoted. This is the normal AND right thing to do and should be easy if you love someone. It's his choice to disrespect you, and it's your choice on how you'll allow yourself to be treated.
I know that when you're lost, you'd turn to almost anyone for help and that's probably why you're here. But I would suggest turning to your family and friends. They'll usually tell you the truth and what they feel is best for you and they know you. Trust the people you trust. He's telling you one thing, but he probably doesn't have all your trust right now as he shouldn't. Lean on those you know DO support you and treat you well and that you can trust. They'll help you get through this.
It's always hard to leave someone you care about and have gotten comfortable with. I know how hard it was to be with someone I thought I'd be with forever and to then have to face my friends and family and co-workers after it was over. It was embarrassing and so hurtful, but with time, it's better. And now, a year later the idea of being with ANYONE (let alone him) who wouldn't treat me the same way I treat them, with love, respect, devotion, makes me sick. I'm way stronger now and you'll be okay too.
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