Would a Husband Who Had an Affair and Was Now Very Dedicated to Making His Marriage Work…?

…..make himself stay away from the other woman even if they work in the same area?

My husband had an affair for almost 2 years – one entire year was continuous until I caught him, the second year (same girl) was very on/off, while he, I guess, tried to see her secretly even though I knew by this time. After I found out, he still tried to find her, waited outside her work etc, and then would similarly cut her off for months at a time, before returning again.

Now he's finally gone 6 months without contacting her.

He does seem more sullen and moody these days and he has lost his spark. He also purchased a Playstation Network, or something, which I gather is not a good thing for a reconciling couple such as us?

I know they work nearby but, whereas in the past (I mean even after I found out the affair) he used to use this to go and watch her and "run into" her, now he drives right past her if he sees her walking.

I do not believe he can possibly be 100% over her after an almost 2-year relationship – that kills me to type it but I have to be honest – but I do believe he's finally making amends now.

Do you agree? Is it a good thing that he now ignores her? Might he cave in one day or will time heal his wounds and the fact he might still miss her?

I just want to be how we were before she got in my way.

I have to be honest and say that I do NOT think he is a natural/repeat "he'll find someone else" cheat – for a start, she approached him and whereas he could and should have said no, I do think he's been hurt and lost enough now to never do this again.

So, does him ignoring her/staying away = feeling nothing for her?

Suggestion:

OMG Read your question again!!!! Your poor little lost lamb of a husband – NOT!!!!!!! What the hell are you thinking. He's got this one well planned out. Affair – twice!!!! Its like saying "hey love, you are missing something so I'll spend the next two years getting it elsewhere but thanks for washing my shirts in the meantime" Do you really hate yourself that much or are you up that Egypt river – DE NIAL? He is staying away from her for one of two reasons. 1). he can't control himself and 2). He aint!!!!!!!!!!!! and he's telling you he is. You make her sound like she's the chaser here. Well he couldn't have run too fast could he? He has no respect for you and you sound like your life is a ticking time bomb until it happens again. Crikey, I can almost hear you say apart from the affairs, he's a wonderful husband. WAKE UP