Is He Cheating? Should I End It?

My fiance' and I have been together for about two years now. We broke up about a year ago for four months because he was talking to his girl online and then texting her and deleting any text messages he received. I felt like at the very least, he was emotionally cheating on me. He had my car all day long and could do anything he wanted while I was working… No he did not have a job.

After we were broke up for four months, I thought we worked things out and we got back together. I felt comfortable with our relationship until about three months ago. He started hanging out at this bar a couple times a week. Then one night when I went into the bar with him, the bartender girl was mean to me and called me a ***** for no reason. I had never even met her before. My fiance' instantly thought I must have done something to cause it, so he blamed me.

I like to play video games and one day I was playing a zombie game on my PS3 and he was naked in my living room, sitting on the couch playing on his laptop. His laptop was turned away from me, I couldn't see what he was doing. Also he likes to lounge around naked so I didn't think anything of it. I happened to turn my head and glance over and he was cam chatting with someone and closed the window really fast. I became so angry over it but kept it inside for the most part. He told me he wouldn't do it again. One night when I was wrapping Christmas presents, he went to the same website twice, for cam chatting but told me it was an accident cause it was saved in his bookmarks.

After all of this, I became suspicious, so one day when he was out of the house. I went on his computer and read his facebook messages. I know it was wrong of me. But I had to know what was going on and of course, he isn't going to tell me. I've already asked him many times to be honest and I would be happy just for him being honest, even if it hurts.

So there was a message in there from a girl he knows from his home town in New York. It was flirty, he was asking her about the time they promised each other they would get married if they weren't married by 30. I was appalled by this, even if it was just innocent flirting because WE ARE SUPPOSED TO GET MARRIED. Ticked me right off.

Well four weeks ago, I bought him a wedding ring. and it took me three months to find the perfect ring for him. He was wearing it the whole time he was at home. But he left it here, I found it in the medicine cabinet. He went to visit his family in New York for a couple weeks for the holidays and left it here! And that girl is up there. So he can wear it when he's at home but not take it up there? I know we aren't married yet, but he has been wearing it.
Oh also before he left, he was getting a bunch of text messages from the girl up in his home town but kept deleting them. I hate that cause he reads all of my text messages.

Hi,
This guy clearly has no respect for you. You are right, he is emotionally cheating on you and the hurt it causes is just the same. Ask him how he would feel if you were chatting naked on your computor to another man..I'm sure he wouldn't think it was acceptable. Whilst you let him get away with the way he treats you, he will continue to do it. You deserve better than this, you would be crazy to marry him before resolving these problems. Ask him to attent a relationship therapy with you to work it out. If he is not interested in changing then move on to someone that will spend time making you feel special rather than wasting his affections to people online xx