NOW,things he has done, slept in other womens beds with them, destroyed the ONLY nice gift my mother has ever given me,taken 3 cell phones from me to control me talking to anyone (we live in a small town where hes grown up,i have no family and friends there and no internet), hes hit me in the face with cans of beer once, hes pushed me,hes thrown my belongings at me and out the front door,hes gotten violent in front of my son,hes destroyed our house (windows,bedroom doors,walls) he drinks a lot,CONSTANTLY accuses me of cheating even when I am talking to female friends and NOT talking to guys! Pretty sure he has cheated on me but he will never admit it.
And to top it all off because of his violent drunk behaviour i was forced to leave with my children 2 days before XMAS or else my kids were going to get taken from me. I can't go back to him until he quits drinking for good and gets professional help for it. My question is, with all this ****, is it even worth it to go back if he sobers up and try this again? Or should I just stay the hell away from him? I try to make the good times outweigh the bad and people tell me I can't give up on my marriage this easily. help please
Each of you is as bad as the other, however your kids, who arent his, deserve better than to be exposed to this.
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you have children
your FIRST priority is them
why you allow this man around them is beyond me
you dont have a marriage
get out and take the chidlren with you
simple answer wont work for you. Here goes… My wife was into drugs, and lesbian relationships behind my back. I got hurt so bad from a acident that i spent 3 months in a hospital. No work xcause of in a wheelchair perminantly. Tried to stab me ,, , took phone so i couldnt have calls from friends,, cussed out neighbors for checking on me. Left me with no food,,, had power cut off in winter cause of drug habbit. And had several affairs that gave her STDs. And i still loved her… When demaded i give her totak settlement from acedent and took my three kids and said id see them whem i got the money for her filed for divorce. Get the hell out and away from him!! Get smart fast!!
my mom stuck around with my dad for years thinking he will change and instead of both going to seek help religiously or non religiously they just kept being themselves. 16 years later they divorced im now 19 and i am emotionally and mentally damaged from everything i saw and the things they put me through, it was so bad i was addicted to drugs ive tried killing myself and have trust issues. i know go to church hoping one day god will give me the the strength to forgive my parents. do your kids a favor you either leave him NOW or go seek help at a church or a marriage counselor.
your kids should be your number one priority. after he changes both of you should pick up the book the love dare and should follow it. without god your relationship has no hope.
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